Trapping emotions inside can hurt you and prevent you from completely healing. If you want to let go of old feelings and move forward try this write and burn technique.
Experiences in life always bring emotions. Good or bad ones. A problem that people tend to have is that when a negative experience occurs they hold onto those emotions and keep them trapped inside.
By holding onto those emotions towards a person you are not allowing yourself to fully heal and be able to move on. If you hold onto fear, anger, or other negative emotions you will remain stuck and not move forward.
These emotions can stay trapped for years and you may not realize how much you truly are holding onto until you begin to write.
To release these emotions you can write them down, read the letter, and then destroy it. By doing this process you will allow your mind to let go of these things which are hurting you.
Step 1: Write
Give yourself as much time as you need and write a letter to whoever hurt you. Write as much as you need to. Letters can be half a page to multiple pages. I have written letters that were 12 pages and for some people more pages than that will be needed.
The length of the letter is not the most important part. What matters is what is written. Write down anything and everything that comes to mind. It can be things you wish you had said or did say. Any feelings or emotions that come to mind write it down.
Your letter does not need to be perfect. You are the only person that will ever see it. If you scribble it down and misspell things that is okay! Just get everything and anything down on the paper.
It might take time to write this letter. It may be emotionally difficult and as you write find yourself crying, angry, or frustrated. Don't give up keep trying to write your letter.
Step 2: Read the Letter
In order to let go of those emotions those things have to be said. Go somewhere that is safe that you can be alone. I go to places where I went with that person.
You will then mentally/spiritually invite that person to be there with you. Then read your letter out loud. Read it all, including the difficult things. You need to verbally get it all out.
Step 3: Destroy and Burn the Letter
Do not keep the letter! I repeat do not keep the letter! That is holding onto emotional garbage that you no longer want. It is time to say goodbye to all of it.
You can throw it on the ground and stomp on it, rip it into little shreds, or crumple it up into a ball. Get creative with destroying it.
Take whatever remains of the letter and burn it. Make sure you safely do so and don't start any dangerous fires. Watch as the letter and words burn up and disappear, imagine that as those leave the feelings and emotions go with it.
Step 4: Forgive and Apologize
Once you have read the entire letter and destroyed it you need to entirely let go of those feelings with verbal expressions.
You can turn to the person you imagined to be with you and say:
"(Their name) I am sorry I have been sending all this negative energy to you, please forgive me."
To yourself
"(Your name) I am sorry I have held onto these negative emotions and energy, please forgive me."
To your higher power
"I am sorry I have been sending this negative energy towards (their name) for so long and for holding onto these negative emotions, please forgive me."
Writing can be Healing
Writing down experiences and emotions can be helpful for many to heal and overcome trauma. Harvard Health has done experiments with what they call expressive writing. They found that those who wrote tended to feel better and visited their campus health center less often.
By writing down your experiences and feelings you are allowing yourself to heal, let go, and move forward. Practicing this technique will make changes in your life as it has done for mine.
Comentarios